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Coach’s Time For Reflection

I was recently contacted by a professor at Regent University, who is in the final Doctor of Strategic Leadership (DSL) course in the Leadership Coaching track, this question:

“When and how does the Coach “sharpen the saw?” We counsel our clients to reflect on where they’ve been and where they want to go, but how do we do the same?”

This question really spoke to my heart, Landscape-Reflections-2passion and purpose for being in the coaching industry.  No matter what profession you are in (teacher, doctor, counselor, coach, lawyer and more…) you are a leader and all leaders benefit from having mentors in their circle of influence.  Take time to grow your circle of influence. Many of the things I coach and mentor to others I am already doing myself; truly living the skills and techniques I am teaching.

Here are just a few:

  1. Mentors – find other coaches, authors, teachers, that inspire and motivate you.  Who do you admire and look up to? What feeds your mind, body and soul?
  2. Self-Care – this could be a variety of things from getting a massage, taking a bubble bath, meditation, yoga, prayer etc. Of course the traditional exercise and nutrition is always important.  Double or triple your water intake during hectic and more stressful times. Explore your boundaries and learn to say ‘no’.
  3. JOY log – each day reflect on the day and find three new things that brought you JOY. Focusing on finding new things each day trains your brain to scan your life and world for the positive.
  4. Find your ‘happy place’ – it doesn’t have to be a faraway exotic island.  My happy place is later in the evening when the rest of the family is quiet and taken care of to float in the pool under the stars.  That is my time of reflection.  However, that doesn’t work in the middle of January, so we all would benefit from finding more than one ‘happy place’ where we can surrender the day, the technology, the noise, and reflect completely by growing our mindfulness and awareness.

I wish you all much peace and happiness in your souls as well as JOY and love in your hearts.



Tips to Taking Care of Yourself Through the Holidays

Tips to taking care of your SELF – mindfulness and awareness – choices that can make a big difference to have a much more enjoyable season.

1.  Clean closets – Yes! Organize those towels, blankets, shoes, seasonal items, games, toys, etc. Give things you don’t need to charity. Less clutter and more organization will free you of much unnecessary weight.

2.  Eliminate your poisonous or negative “friends” – If someone is always dumping on you, sucking you dry, is the queen of complaining, and has a street named after them ~ ‘one-way’ they are most likely not the caliber of friend you want or need in your life.  Raise the bar on your deserve level. Give yourself permission to distance yourself from them, completely.

3.  Say no to extra things you said yes to, and shouldn’t have – Yes, you may be the ‘one’ everyone goes to and depends on; however, you are allowed to say ‘no’.  Develop healthy boundaries to preserve your energy and keep you from becoming depleted and stressed. Hang up your Wonder Woman cape for a little while.

4.  Go through your files and dump the extra papers – OMG, is this speaking my language! How many of you are professional pile-its – not one who flies an airplane, but one who has piles of files here, piles of papers there, piles of bills over there.  It’s clutter and disorganization.  If you have a lot of newspapers, consider dropping them off at the local SPCA versus in your recycle bin. Invest in a shredder or go to a local place that can shred them for you.  You will FEEL MUCH LIGHTER.

5. Give gifts only to those you WANT to – Beware of getting trapped into the commercialism of the season. Go back to basics.

6.  Remember you don’t have to do it all – You don’t have to bake cookies, buy for everyone, decorate the house, spend time with ALL relatives.  Are you married to tradition? Maybe it’s time to take a break from tradition just for this year. You can always go back to it again next year.

7.  UNPLUG and let others take care of you.  Maybe another relative or friend can be the host this year for the annual dinner party and you can bring some side dishes.  Maybe you can go out to a restaurant instead of cooking the huge spread.  Maybe you can let go of _________ (fill in the blank) and treat yourself to a bubble bath, massage, nap, brisk walk in the park, a movie, and so on ….

Love and JOY, Cynthia

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