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I wanted to share this with you because the speeches in it got me thinking for the better. It was exactly what I was needing. This goes so much deeper than equestrianism. Even if you're not into horses, just listen.. & Yes, I made this video, but I do not own the clips or audio.

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What does EQ have to do with managing change?



What does EQ have to do with managing change?emotional

Everything!

If you can create awareness of the way you respond to life events, such as change, and manage your response to the event you’re well on your way to effectively managing change.

You’ve heard the saying, ‘It’s not what happens that matters but how you respond to it that really counts’, increasing awareness is a vital key in managing how you respond.

EQ gives you the awareness and mindfulness you need to increase your ability to distinguish between the event that happens, and the way you respond to it. Simply being aware of your response means you can make changes that benefit you. Being emotionally intelligent allows you to manage your emotions such as anger, anxiety, frustration, and fear which in turn relieves stress in your life.

So, what does it mean to be emotionally intelligent?

EI has been coined by Daniel Goleman in 1995 the theory emphasizes the importance of awareness, control and management of our emotions and the emotions of other people.

The skills, sometimes referred to as learned competencies, are recognized as the fundamentals to success in leadership to your ability to manage life’s curve balls – often defined as change. We are creatures of habit and naturally resist change. EQ gives you the tools needed to welcome change effectively.

Being emotionally intelligent includes the following abilities:

  • Self Awareness: The ability to recognize and understand feelings and emotion, and the ability to understand your responses to situations and other people’s actions.
  • Self-Management: The ability to choose how we think, how we feel, the actions we take, and to motivate ourselves; also known as self-regulation.
  • Social Awareness: The ability to recognize and understand the feelings and emotions of others. This includes skills in empathy.
  • Relationship Management: The ability to express your emotions and to communicate effectively.

These skills can be learned – and used well can help you manage change and achieve success in life.

Take an EQ-i2.0 self-assessment to discover your strengths and areas requiring development.  Contact Cynthia Gossman, Emotional Intelligence Expert and Facilitator today, cynthia@cynthiagossman.com or 757-635-5379.

Warmly,

Cynthia Gossman, Your Personal JOY Restoration Coach

Look For The Pony



ponyblogThere were two little boys quite opposite of each other.  One day both of the boys were given a circumstance of life and the people observed. (story improvised from original version)

The first little boy stood skeptically in the doorway of the room full of toys not sure if he should enter. But with a little prodding and hearing, “Go on in, they are all yours”, he finally walked over the first toy. What happened next shocked and stunned the people. Instead of playing gleefully the little boy systematically opened every single package in the room and rejected each of the toys in turn. The people heard him whining: “These aren’t like my toys at home. These toys will never work. Where are the video games! “It’s hot in here. I don’t have any friends to play with.”  The complaining went on and on until soon, exhausted from his own negativity, he sat down in the middle of the room and with a big pout on his face he angrily shouted “I’m bored and I want to go home.”

The people had been so mesmerized by this display of pessimism and negativity that they had almost forgotten about the second little boy who had been place in the room full of manure. They quickly shifted their attention to the second room and peering through the observation window, were stopped in their tracks. They had expected to see the little boy sitting on the pile sad and crying. But instead, he was standing on top of the pile wildly shoveling horse manure. To the amazement of the people, he was animated, excited, alive, and happy. He kept digging and digging and shouting with glee. He was covered with manure from head to toe and he was ecstatic. The people looked at one another in awe – the child seemed delirious.

The people opened the door to the room and tried to get the boy’s attention.  However, he was so focused on digging that it took a few minutes to get his attention. Finally the boy stopped what he was doing, turned around, and faced the people. Looking with amazement at the manure covered child one of the people asked, “Son, what in the world are you doing?” With that question, a huge grin crossed the boy’s face and with the same enthusiasm he had given to digging he replied, “Sir, with all this manure I just know there is pony in here somewhere and I’m going to find him!”  With that he turned around and started digging.

Two Power Principles for Finding Your Pony

Choose Your Focus: In every circle of influence there are some people who use their time and energy complaining about their circumstances and others who are carrying shovels looking for ponies. The only difference between these two groups is the choices that they make about how they respond to their circumstances. It is difficult, if not impossible, to control what life, friends, family, work, or society throw at us. Sometimes what we get is fantastic and sometimes it is a pile of horse poop. However, it is completely in our control to find opportunity in each situation and instead of complaining, dig.

Get a Pep Talk: We all have bad days and we all get crapped on from time to time, and though it is easy to write that you have the power to choose your attitude, it is much harder to do it when you feel like circumstances are not on your side. As growing human beings, leaders, matriarchs, parents, WE ALL require a pep talk as much as any other person. When in these situations it is hard to see the forest for the trees or perhaps the pony for the manure. Surrounding yourself with successful optimistic people is the cure.

Love and JOY, Cynthia

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